Our Little Family

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I knew that statistically speaking, my Husband and my marital satisfaction would plummet when we had out first child.  The upside being that our Life Satisfaction would increase. I had mentally prepared myself for this, and did my best to prepare my husband.  I believe in what I have learned and studied, but now whole-heartedly disagree with this statistic, or I am gladly an outlier.

Starting a family has deepened our connection and commitment to our marriage.  We now have another person in our life to make us accountable to each other. Walter has certainly not made life "easier,"  it is stressful and confusing at times but having a family has most definitely made life better!  I believe that part of this is the willingness and flexibility to shift my definitions and expectations to be realistic of the situations we encounter as a new family.  Neal and I have both been able to be flexible with the ways life changes with a baby...probably because we are both middle children and thus making us AWESOME!

Not to mention the overwhelming amount of love in our home.  In the first months having Walter home it was incredibly overwhelming, it does not bring me to tears as often.  At one point a few months ago I told Neal, "we are going to have to have a second child, this feeling has to be dispersed among more than one...I will smother poor Walter."  I still agree...it needs to be spread among more than one. Hopefully we will be lucky enough to expand our family in the future.